good intentions??

Sometimes I'm grateful that I had no older brother.

I was just drawn to the back door by Davyn's shrill shrieks.  What I saw:  Aidan in full-fledged chase, wielding a stick, yelling, "I'm just trying to help you run so you can exercise and be healthy." 

Of course, I'm not entirely convinced about A's intentions, but it was evident that D felt no gratitude. 

Sometimes I feel the same as a parent.  There has been no stick-wielding chase (yet!), but at times my tactics feel similarly desperate & disproportionate.  And I often wonder if my Intentions are more "bend to my will" than  "for the greater good". 

On Saturday Jim and I are starting a 3-week Love & Logic class.  I have heard only good things about their philosophy and methods.  I'm hoping for answers to a few walls I've hit lately.  And perhaps (for D's sake!) I'll be able to pass some of these strategies on to the Big Brother.  For the love of the Greater Scott Good. 

Comments

[Megan]

What class is this? And where are you taking it at?
The stick chasing cracks me up, I can so visualize the whole situation.

[lelly]

sounds fascinating.

[Emily]

Ha! This is hilarious! Good luck.

[Mandi]

That is so funny! I guess exercising is truly a family affair in the Scott household. Good luck with the class - I'll be interested to hear some new tactics because I think every mother/parent feels that way sometimes.

[Neighbor Jane Payne]

Amy, that stick story is a keeper! I see a ton of mileage in it (talks, lessons, etc.) Oh, it is a classic. Hooray for your parenting class. Don't forget to tell us what you learn :)

[Aprilyn]

My kids are constantly fighting!! I don't think it helps that they both have ADHD (or at least their doctor thinks they do).

[kim sue]

I think I might need a big brother to chase me around with a stick to motivate me to run so I can be healthy! :)

[Rachel]

Your writing is fabulous...

I loved the line. "There has been no stick-wielding chase (yet!), but at times my tactics feel similarly desperate & disproportionate." Wow, can I relate to that!

I have heard that the class is wonderful. I am anxious to hear how it goes. Hopefully we'll get a good detailed review so it can be for OUR greater good as well.

Anytime with the slideshow thing...I AM serious! Give April a CD of pics and I'll whip one up for ya.

[sista #2]

Any parent can relate & crack up at your story!! I
often wished I, as a mom could have a hidden video camera on me at all times! Yes, they do the craziest things - and each day they'll try something new :) HA

[jenny c.]

The stick would be something very familiar in our household, but the comment about exercising is seriously cracking me up. I am anxious to hear your report about your class.

[Lindsay]

Okay, now that story is totally hilarious!

Thanks for visiting by blog and for the compliment on my photography too.

[mandy]

That story is so funny. I am excited to hear about your class.

[Elizabeth]

You will have to share all the wisdom you learn at your class.

[Angie]

I hope you glean a lot of parental wisdom from the class. I'm a true believer in Love and Logic--it definately works in the classroom. Good luck!

[Marie]

"I'm just trying to help you exercise and be healthy!!!" Awesome. A very real look into the lives of siblings. I laughed out loud.

I am excited to hear what you learn in your class.

[Kelly]

Perhaps Aidan has a future as a personal trainer. This was too funny to imagine.

I do hope you share what you learn in that class. We could all benefit from a little love and logic, I think!

[Tiffany]

:)

I think it so funny that kids today know that running around is exercise and that it's good for you (maybe without a stick next time?). Did we ever label it as exercise when we were young? Too funny.

[Katie]

That is too funny! Sounds like his motivation worked, but hmmm...

[amberly]

I LOVE love and logic- the principles tie in so closely with the gospel in my opinion.  Heavenly Father gives us direction and then lets us make the mistakes we need to to learn, there isn't any forcing involved.  I struggle with trying to control every situation and this stuff really helped me to let them learn and grow and learn from their mistakes.  I hope you find it as helpful... and share what you learn!

[April]

I could use a little more of both of those...love and logic.

[Holly]

Sometimes I wonder how I survived with four older brothers! I bet you witnessed some crazy things back when we were all younger!

Your writing is so beautiful! Thanks for sharing your boys lives with us!

[Lucy]

I have also heard only good things about Love and Logic methods. I think it's commendable that you and Jim are doing this together. Good luck!

[Kristi Lane]

It's all about love and logic. Such a funny story about the stick. Hey I used to chase our babysitter with a broom when I was little, wish we had love and logic when I was a kid......

[Michelle M.]

This story put a smile on my face! I LOVE, Love, and Logic! Steve, and I just got done taking a 6 week class. It is amazing how changing some simple things can make such a huge difference in the home. Good luck, and have fun with it too! :)

[Annalisa]

That was good for a laugh out loud chuckle, and I rarely do that. Kids can be a constant source of amusement. I personally haven't taken love and logic, but Brett took the courses and filled me in on the details. Good stuff.

[Barb]

Logic is a good parenting tool, but I wouldn't put the weapon of logic into my own child's hands - he or she might hold it against me at some future date.

[michelle]

That is TOO funny!

[carlo]

oh so sweet the love and logic of siblings. (even if he did not mean it in that way, it is very cute!)

[Price Cream Parlor]

I love this visual. So funny! I agree with Neighbor Jane - great mileage for future talks!This is really so dang funny! - I have heard great things about that class! Love AND Logic! Fantastic! Have you read the 5 love languages for children? I just finished one for teenagers and I was totally positive I knew what my 17 year olds language was. After he took the test I was in shock. I am always trying to read something on parenting. I think that we all feel the same we you do! I will be interested to see what you come away with after your three weeks are up. Hope you share....

[Megan]

Um time for something new Amy.

[carlo]

wow, i thought i commented on this one. this has been happening a lot lately? am i not patient enough for the comment "to take" before i run off to another blog?

at any rate, how funy is this little peek into the lives of boys. won't you be happy it is recorded?

hope all is well? been a while since you last posted?

[Marie]

I miss Amy. Please come back soon.

[Jill]

That's classic!