To Jim, after 5 years
Thursday, August 2, 2007 at 02:38PM "There is nothing nobler or more admirable
than when two people who see eye to eye
keep house as man and wife,
confounding their enemies and delighting their friends."
I think it was our second anniversary...or Valentines?...that I put this quote in a frame with pictures of us. It holds power. Keeping house as man and wife, that is. And doing it eye to eye...well, I'll admit that we haven't quite perfected that part. Yet. Even with enemies and friends set aside, we mindlessly manage to confound one another as much as we delight. But, there is no one else I would rather delight or confound. Truly. To honor this day, here is my list to you...The "How You Delight Me"'s are important but rather more obvious, so I'll honor you with the opposite, which is somehow equally important to our Becoming.
Five ways for Five Years…How You Have Confounded Me:
1. “Confound” is the perfect word for how I felt when I first met the infamous Jim Scott. At the time you entered my world, so few had ever broken through my well-crafted veneer, but you shook it to the ground. And I’m far better off without it.
2. With words. Your words: move me, frustrate me (do you have any idea what it’s like to argue with someone so verbally your superior?)…yet, that’s part of the what drew me to you in the first place. 70th ward was definitely low on men with vocabularies like yours. But, I'm sure Harvard Law School was as well. My words: You make me face them, own them, think before I speak them. And I know you’re laughing at that statement because I'm definitely a "work in progress" in this regard.
3. With actions that I don’t want. Did you just lick my cheek again?!
4. With actions that I do want. I muse aloud. And when I fancy something, my man jumps up and does. Sometimes it feels like punishment because…who knew!...you don’t really want someone to instantly do what you instantly think. Some thoughts should honestly be given more stewing time in the quiets of your own mind. This drives me mad! As much a curse as blessing. But you know that, and relish the confounding.
5. Last, and quite the best, a new-found definition of the word. And one I won’t forget: “to mingle so that the elements cannot be distinguished or separated.” The making One of two. I'm not the same woman you vowed to have & hold for always five years ago. So much growing, stretching, opening & closing of wounds, old & new, have spanned the time. But I'm more a part of you than ever. Five years of marriage, and our melding becomes ever more prounounced. This summer, in fact, I realized that "we" - the Jim & Amy Scott family - now decidedly have our own culture. Different than Hendrix. Different than other Scott's. We are our own. And we are most decidedly each other's. And I can only imagine the punctuation that Eternity will put upon that thought. Irrevocably altered.
Happy Anniversary, my Jim. Thank you for both the Confounding & Delight that have brought us this far. I love you Always.
and thank you for the late night self-portrait session...
we are sadly lacking photos of the two of us.
And BIG thank you to the best mother-in-law in the world, who offered to take our boys for two nights. We look forward to two days of bliss alone together!
Reader Comments (18)
"There's a poetry about us-
I love the way we rhyme"
This sounds like you two ;)
Happy day!! Janae
happy eye-to-eyes...
lelly
I really loved reading about you and Jim. I know first hand how much work goes into a marriage. The fact that after five years of marriage you are closer now than before, well I really admire that. The part where you said that you are not the same person he married in the first place is what moved me the most. People change over time, the fact that you and Jim have changed to be one instead of two is remarkable. You are so blessed to have your family, thank you for giving me a little insight into your relationship.
Happy Anniversary and on a side note....I love your cheek bones! It is a very flattering feature and I always notice them everytime you post a picture of yourself.